yo does anyone else feel CONSTANTLY guilty? like you’ve always done something wrong but you don’t know what it is?
Yes, and I’ve spoken to my therapist about it, who offered an explanation:
She says that people who from a young age were made to feel like they kept doing things wrong - people who’s parents had impossibly high standards for them, people who were bullied, people who have special needs, people who didn’t develop crushes on the “right” people, people who didn’t act like the “right” gender - basically ended up being made to feel guilty so much that guilt became their default response to everything. Guilt became the emotional response to anything which the person didn’t already have a set emotion for.
People for whom guilt is the default emotional response are also more likely to have low self-esteem, doubt their own experiences, and experience impostor syndrome. So, watch out for that too guys
TO PUNKS/PPL WHO WEAR DOC MARTENS, SPECIFICALLY BLACK ONES: please follow lace code. i don’t care if it’s dead. if you wear red or white laces and you KNOW lace code, it’s your fault if you get punched. we do not tolerate nazis or white supremacists in the punk community. shut up and follow lace code.
Just got Daughterchild her first pair of stompies.
She’s got yellow laces.
The first time I’d ever heard of anything like the Lace Code was after I added colorful laces to these plain black boots I got (not Docs; I can’t afford those) to give me better ankle support. I felt the black laces on black boots looked too militaristic, so I get green and red laces for starboard (right) and port (left). A friend later warned me to get rid of the red laces before an anti fascist got the wrong idea and attacked me. I thought that it would be pretty messed up to get attacked for wanting a little more color but whatever.
I was trying NOT to look like a jack-booted thug, and apparently I was doing the opposite. But, how was I supposed to know that bootlaces could be used to make political statements?
I now have glittery gold laces on them, and I’m relieved to learn that gold it probably close enough to yellow to mean anti racist.
